Hello,
I have disappeared for a long time.... have been very busy with work and exams... got a few updates before I start ranting and raving....
1. I have been really sick and am still very sick....
2. I have passed my guiding exams and am now the official tourist guide of Singapore....
3. I am still looking for a job....
Anyhoo, there was a case of a girl committing suicide near my place.... It's really sad and I feel for the family... but I think the girl did a stupid thing... By the looks of her friends and boyfriend, she must be in her 20s'... I don't know why she did such a thing...
Common reasons would be for committing suicide would be:
1. Boyfriend/husband problem
2. Money problem
3. Work problem
4. Family problem
Personally, I feel that if one should commit suicide based on the above mentioned reasons, then they must have been living a worthless life...
I have limited amount of friends and these friends have known what I have gone through... but somehow the thought of suicide has never came across in my mind... no matter how shitty things can be...
I think that God has put us here (Earth) for a reason... and we meet people for a reason... some change our lives drastically and some have little impact in our life, no matter who or what walks in our lives, we should be able to face the good times and bad times...
Who are we to end our lives when we never created ourselves... These people who commit suicide, I wonder if they have thought what would happen to their family members when they are gone... I think they are doing the most selfish thing...
My friends have committed suicide and I have seen the way their families cry over their bodies regretting why they have said or done the things they shouldn't have in the first place...
Parents are the ones who bring us into their lives... they mould us into the person they want us to be... in some instances, we turn out otherwise and yet they love us unconditionally... Yes, there are times when they say or do things that hurt us, but have we stopped to think how much hurt we are causing them when we don't turn out to be the way they have dreamed us to be? I know we have never asked to be born but our parents love us unconditionally so why can't we love them the same?
Friends are our support networks after our parents... You don't have the power to choose your parents but you have the power to choose your friends... Your friends should help you and not bring you down in life...
If you have problems, you should confide in friends who should in return give you good advice and not crappy advice...
For instance, if you have family problems, your friend should advise you to talk to your family members and not run away from home...
I have a small group of friends whom I trust and share my problems with...
Boyfriend/husband, they are supposedly our life partners and best friends... but somehow we choose the wrong people to be with... it hurts when the person whom you think/thought is going to be out life partner disappoints you... but that doesn't give you the reason to commit suicide....
We, as women, got to show men that we are their equivalent and not beneath them...
Work and money problems come hand in hand... the magic rule applies "DON'T
SPEND MORE THAN YOU EARN!!!!!!!!"
Then you won't have problems
I do feel for the girl that committed suicide but I still think that there could have been many other ways to solve your problems...
For all those out there reading this and are contemplating to do this cowardice act, do think about the consequences....
I am sure that you don't wanna be scrapped off the pavement with your hands handcuffed????
Do try and speak to friends or call in help lines to talk to random strangers...
Sometimes it is easier to talk to a stranger and not worry about being judged.... trust me...
Alternatively, you can talk to me.... I am the in-your-face crude counselor that would help you see it through.... hahahaha....
Ciao